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First, I want to start off by saying that I am pretty sure that this is going to be a controversial post. I am going to be talking about how I see things, my interpretations of these words. If things work differently, well good for you. But tonight is about how I see the world.
Where I perceive the differences. My viewpoint. Reality is that most of us fall somewhere in the continuum, not at the precise points I will be talking about.
I am talking about concepts here. Ideals perhaps. Not reality. I have seen people who called themselves a slave who behaved more like what I think of as a submissive. And I have known many who saw themselves as a submissive, but behaved more like a slave. It only talks about two s-types. The world as I see it, there is a difference between the concept of a submissive and the concept of a slave.
As I see the submissive, they are the bulk of the participants of BDSM, at least in my community and the communities I have visited. Submissives seem to be more focused on their wants, their desires, and their limits. They are concerned about what they can get out of the Lifestyle.
Sometimes the next orgasm. While they may provide service to their partner, they do it for the rewards they get.
Often they require more micro-management to fulfill a request or directive, hesitating if step by step instructions are not left. They can show little initiative, taking pleasure rather in the doing of each command. This is how they see their role in the Lifestyle. Sometimes it is because they are afraid of letting go. Perhaps they have been damaged by relationships vanilla or not. Perhaps they are less serious looking for fun, or they are very serious, but concerned about being misused or abused.
There are many good reasons for being a submissive, and not every s-type is supposed to be a slave. The way I see the role of a slave, she is more focused on what his partner needs. What he can do for his Mistress. A slave often has no stated limits.
It is just that they have negotiated carefully with their partner and are comfortable with the limits they set well at least the smart ones do. They often show more initiative. A more general command, such as fix dinner, will usually meet with better from a slave. When presented with such tasks, they are capable of running with the facts at hand.
Taking what they know about their D-type and using that to guide their choices. Slaves also tend to be very head-strong, a slave I know told me that the best slaves have dominant personalities. I have to agree with them. It takes a lot of inner strength to let go and submit to the will of another. I am not all that sure about what makes a submissive different from a slave. And I do want to repeat that I am not saying one is better than the other.
If you are having fun, then do what you want to do. Not everyone is cut out to be a submissive, nor a slave either. One is not a better role than another. What is your thoughts about this? I would be very interested to hear what this essay has provoked in your mind. Leave me a message, in the comments. View more posts. Master and I spoke about this today after I read your post. He said he difference between a submissive and a slave to agree with you about the nature of slaves versus submissives.
Master tells me all the time I am a natural slave but at times a poor submissive. I struggle with that statement, I could never understand how I could be a good slave but horrible submissive. I have always thought you could be a submissive without being a slave, but I was of the mind all slaves were submissives. I suppose I thought of it as submissiveness by degrees. Thanks for helping me see it in a different way. Void I found your Essay to be very interesting and agree whole hearted. You know the ones where. While applications of true slaves are much like a of skills. Such as cookingcleaning, yard work etc.
Slave does not offer information like that. He submitted himself with skills that could possibly please a future Mistress. The limits were given in the beginning, and nothing other has been added. I enjoy reading your post, and epically like this one. Hope to see you at the MAST meeting. My sub and I discussed your thoughts the other evening and she now happily admits she must be a slave. Admittedly we have only been together 6 weeks but never has she given me a list. All she ever says, in this respect, is whatever you want me to do, I will.
Just a simple thing that I wanted her to do was to meet some vanilla friends of mine and I pretended it was the next weekend, knowing she was not ready for this yet.
Yes we have limits and we know what we do not like, but otherwise I am free to explore her potential and try uncharted waters. You are commenting using your WordPress. You are commenting using your Google. You are commenting using your Twitter. You are commenting using your Facebook. Notify me of new comments via. Notify me of new posts via. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. M V Rate this:. Share this: Click to this to a friend Opens in new window Click to print Opens in new window Click to share on Twitter Opens in new window Click to share on Facebook Opens in new window Click to share on Reddit Opens in new window.
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